Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting around for somebody to give you flowers"
Saturday, April 30, 2011 || 9:24 AM
One of the most common misconception is that dependency is love. People keep saying, I cant live without my girlfriend, I cant live without my boyfriend. He is my life, she is my life. I will die without her. I can't think how life would be without him.
What I feel is that, what they have described is mostly not love. A better word to describe their situation would be : Parasitism.
When you require another individual for your survival, you are a parasite on that particular person.
Love, is the free exercise of choice.
Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without one another, but chose not to.
I define dependency as the inability to experience wholeness or function adequately without the certainty that one is being cared for by another.
Every single one of us have needs and feelings. All of us have desires to be nurtured, without any efforts on our parts, to be cared for by people stronger than us who have our interests at heart. Too many people are seeking for love, so much so that they have no energy left to love. They will always have an inner emptiness, crying to be filled but can never be filled.
Many people do not really care what their identities are, so long someone gives it to them.
Consequently, their relationships, though seemingly dramatic, is also sadly, shallow.
The road less traveled , Dr Peck