"Jacqueline Koh
Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting around for somebody to give you flowers"

To nobody in particular

Sunday, November 18, 2012 || 7:27 AM

"At different points of your life, you would want different people to be in it."

We were once close, but not anymore. Not anymore by choice. I, or perhaps you under the influence of people and environment, molded a different view on life and started pursuing different objectives in life. What you once thought was important, wasn't anymore. What was once exciting, wasn't anymore. Priorities seemed to have taken a shift, and the connection we had seemed to have dissipated into nothingness.

They say, effort is crucial in maintaining a connection.

I say, humans are lazy and inconsistent creatures. Inconsistency drips like fluid, and the more it happens, the sooner a gulf forms. And that gulfs separates two bodies, and as it forms bigger and becomes more and more vast, a larger effort is needed to close it up.

And what did i say about effort?

We remember the good times we had,

and that is why dinner dates are arranged.

In spite of the overbearing awkwardness looming on the top of our heads.

And we all know it, but didn't want to admit it to place a seal on the factual thought which has reverberated countless times in our hearts.

But dear friend, it's okay.

We were part of each other because we are the combined effort of everyone we have met. You did nothing wrong, I did nothing wrong too. It's just like everything else, there's an expiry date. Our time has came, and now it's only proper to move onto someone, or something else and embrace it with an open heart.

Maybe, just so maybe, I still love you, but not enough to want to make a conscious effort anymore. There are endless possibilities out there if you venture far out enough, and I give you my blessings :)

Free yourself from negative people. – Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be you. And being you is the only way to truly live.

Sometimes you never know why some things happen. But they do, and they're always for the better :)